Ok this is a tricky one. Depending on how you divide or combine your economies, and whether or not you are confortable with it, shopping for your bonus-children’s clothes can be pure hell or pleasure. Or something in between. In our case we do have a combined economy. That means that both of our salaries get paid into the same account. This is a bit old-fashioned and would probably not suit everyone, so only as long as you are ok with it should you try it. So, regardless of how much each of us gets every month, everything gets paid from our combined budget: rent, bills, magazine subscriptions, transport cards and petrol, food, dinners out… and also clothes, shoes, school stuff, friends’ birthday presents to take to parties, school and fritids fees, and all the costs that having 2 kids convey.
So far, having a combined economy has worked for us, but I can understand that it does not work for every sassy bonusmamma out there. If you don’t agree with putting up with having to share your deal with the kids’ material needs that cost money, then don’t, but be very clear since the beginning to avoid disputes and dissappointments. Go to your bank together with your man, and work out a solution. Maybe a common account where you both put money every month? Just remember it is quite hard to separate every cost there is in a household. Be prepared to go as far as you really want to, and face the consequences. Don’t get into a deal that you will eventually resent, but be aware that dividing the bills is not cristal clear. Will you pay less than half because there are 3 of them but only one you? Is it fair, or is it too far? Only you and him can make that decision.
In our case, it works. Maybe because they are girls (yes!), but I must admit that I L.O.V.E going shopping for them. Read: FOR them, not exactly WITH them – that’s a different story. So this is what they got yesterday. Cute, huh?
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