Some things I’d rather never find out

The longer I live the more I realise how many things there are in life that I don’t have a clue about and that I probably will never find out. For example, I don’t have a clue on how it feels to be an “ex” when there are children involved – and I don’t know if I will ever find that out. Do “exes” who are moms and re-married feel the same about having their kids only every other week, than the moms who are single? Regardless of the answer, I am almost sure that they feel relieved (to say the least) to know that there is a good relationship between her kids and their new step-mom. Of course there will always be moms out there who simply cannot come to terms with the fact that their kids and their new stepmom have a nice time together. In those cases, I can only say “too bad” for the mom, she is the one who has an issue to deal with and no one else – even if sometimes it can feel like it is everyone else’s issue too.
Every step-mom, or bonusmamma, has her own special relationship with her husband’s ex. Good or bad, peaceful or dangerous, the relationship is there and will stay there for as long as the new couple stays together. It came in the same box, together with the kids, the and the baggage. From own experience I can honestly tell that if the husband is one worth it, he will always have the ex in his own life, and it is a good thing – even if it does not always seems to be.

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